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Oh how I love this truth.

The kids and I, especially the girls and I, have had long, deep and extensive conversations over the past year about this very topic.

Friendships are hard. Friendships are harder when circumstances lead to distance or separation. However, I truly believe when God places unique, genuine friendships in your life, you are truly blessed. You know which ones I am talking about. The ones that stand the test of time. The ones that show up no matter what. The ones that see your ugly and still love you. The ones that you can cry on their shoulders and they wipe your tears. The ones that do not judge but love you through. The ones that help clean up the messes in your life with joyful and happy hearts because they truly want to take on your burdens, weep with you and rejoice with you. The ones that you feel like you just found a diamond, a piece of GOLD amongst a pile of dirt and you do everything and anything to clean it up, keep it safe and protect it. Yes those are the friendships, the ones that no matter how far apart, no matter the distance or separation that may come your way, those are the God anointed friendships that you hold onto and cherish.

I know, trust me I know, that when you have those friendships that you thought were all the above and circumstances and distance cut it off, sometimes suddenly, IT HURTS. In fact it hurts deep. There is a grieving process that needs to take place and more often than not a feeling of rejection and abandonment arises. I get that. Been there more often than I would like to admit but I want to encourage you with this. What feels like rejection is actually God’s protection. Not every friendship or relationship that enters your life is fruitful, uplifting or meant to ride the waves of life with you. Hard truth I know but it is truth. There are friendships that come along your path in your journey that truly are for a reason, a season or a lifetime. All in which God uses to mold you, shape you, and purify you into the person in which whom HE has created you to be. For the reason and season friendships, grieve the loss but also find the beauty that transpired within your journey for you to become a better version of you. For those lifetime friendships, hold onto them. Nurture them. Be open, honest, transparent and vulnerable with them. They truly are a blessing from above.

I believe whole heartedly that the enemy uses relationships and friendships to divide us and to conceptualize a distorted view of love. God’s greatest commandment for us is to love. That being known and said, the enemies greatest tactic is to destroy our image of love.

So for those of you that are in the season of transition with friendships, know when God places that chosen friendship in your life, the one you can’t imagine life without, do not allow the pain of distance, separation or time come between that unique, hard to find gem. They are too valuable to loose. For those who are searching for that one person to walk life out with, God has them for you, but do not be so guarded by the hurts of the past that you don’t see the angel God has placed right before your eyes. Do not allow your past hurts to deprive you of your present or future blessings. God is too good for you to extinguish the blessings He is pouring out upon you. Trust in Him and trust in His perfect timing. He is never late but He is always on time.

Love you all and know I am always here for you praying you through ?